Prove yourself wrong

Change is the one constant throughout our entire existence. It engulfs everything that we are, have been and ever will be. Along with its cousin, Time, it is both creator and destroyer of all things. This doesn’t necessarily mean it is a good thing, and yet, it isn’t always a bad thing either.

It is chance. Pure, unbiased chance.

Yet aren’t we lucky?

This change I speak of is not some cruel mistress of fate sent to our smite our every premeditated move. It is not some perilous storm that shakes the foundations and tears down the ramparts of our crumbling fortresses.


It just is – and like anything that just happens to be, it can be moulded into something we desire it to be.

It can be a positive thing.

And you can make it happen.

We ourselves have the power to mould our own futures. We are not afforded much status in this world but we are afforded this one, very unique opportunity.

What’s that you ask? Life is not unique you say? There are over 7 billion people on this planet. What makes me so special?

I can’t argue with logic I admit.

Let me ask you to consider how many people came before you, and how many are going to come after you and I have long departed this world.


Yet here you are, right here, right now, living and breathing. Just consider that astonishing fact for a moment. History has proven that all it takes is one person’s eccentric and seemingly impossible idea to catapult the fate of the future into unknown and terrific realms.

Now I’m not suggesting that we’re all going to be the next Charles Dickens or William Shakespeare. What I am saying however, is that we can be as celebrated to our the loved ones in our lifetime as these men were and continue to be to our history.

We all change, when you think about it. We are all different people, all through our lives.That is good. That is right. Be the change you wish to see.

Now depression, I speak directly to you:

You told me that I was worthless, unloved and unwanted.

I proved you wrong

You told me that I would never be able to maintain a blog, never mind actually write in it every single day.

I proved you wrong

You told me that I would never graduate from university .

I proved you wrong

You are not the same person you were five minutes past, never mind a whole year

Depression is not you.

So do me a favour.

Prove your past self wrong. You have suffered enough.

If the world can change, then why can’t we?


What have you done to prove your depression wrong?

It doesn’t matter if it’s as something as minuscule as getting to work on time or reaching out for an apple instead of a bar of chocolate. Change is change, no matter how big or small. Feel free to share your experience in the comment section below!


Emotional support helplines:

Samaritans :116 123

Rethink Mental Illness advice line 0300 5000 927 (Monday to Friday 09:30-16:00; local rate)

Sane Line:0845 767 8000

Mind also has a useful guide of support and services, which can be found by clicking the link right here

15 thoughts on “Prove yourself wrong

  1. Very inspiring post! A nice reminder to reflect on the positive, especially for those of us who feel defined by mental illness. For me, changing my lifestyle to lose weight is something I didn’t think possible (or worthy of) a year ago…I’m still struggling with the worthiness factor. Mental health problems have a bad habit of sabotaging so much in our lives, so we absolutely must celebrate the victories! Well done & thanks for sharing

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    1. Thanks for your kind comment! I understand that it can be very hard to reflect on the positive. The point of this post was to highlight what being alive really means and the potential we have to change things – I am glad that this spoke to you 🙂

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  2. Change is scary, in every avenue of life. It’s the fear of failure, doubt and not being good enough that hold so many back. Yet change opens a new way of thinking, living and belief in yourself. It takes courage to persevere, to prove others wrong and find you absolutely can change and become the person you want to be. I loved your post, every word of it 🙂


    1. Exactly, taking risks is scary enough. More so if you suffer with any kind of disorder – the ramifications if things go wrong can be more severe! Yet we either take risks or we forever remain stagnant and never know if that small change we could made would have changed our entire way of living for the better. Thank you for commenting. It really touches me when my writing emotionally resonates with people 🙂


  3. I don’t handle change well, even if it is for the good. Yet I try my best to embrace it and go with it. I went through a very deep and dark depression that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I know that demon quite well… He still follows me around, waiting to embrace me if I fall.
    I love your post here, it is so true. I want to prove both my depression and anxiety wrong. Right now anxiety is my ruling demon. Writing in my blog like I did yesterday was defeating it. Doing anything new is defeating it.
    That’s it… I don’t want to just prove it wrong, I want to defeat it completely… I hope that one day I am truly able to.

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    1. I know that demon you speak of all too well, and like you, to completely defeat it and be the person I’ve always wanted to be would be a victory that would outshine anything else that I may achieve in my time on this planet!

      Yet as tempting as it is to take leaps towards fighting this demon inside our minds, it is more likely that we will stumble and fall if we put too much pressure on ourselves. This is why I suggest proving it wrong as a starting point. Small changes can have massive, positive outcomes over time.

      Patience is not one of my strongest qualities. Yet I feel it’s necessary when dealing a mental disorder. It might take some time, but it will make your victory over anxiety taste so much sweeter in the end 🙂

      Thanks so much for your comment!

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      1. You are right. This morning I had a realization that I will post about, actually. I think I hit a breaking point and I couldn’t be happier! But I also went through a lot of struggle, a LOT of stumbling, falling, and smashing into walls… So I agree with you 100% on that. It’s just that I think I’m at that point where I can finally break free… And it near puts me in tears because I’m so happy. 🙂


      2. Ah so what you’re saying is that your nearer the end of your journey. That must feel amazing! At times I think I’ve come close, but i still have a lot of work to do. Yet the fact that it is possible means I will do everything in my power to ensure I reach my destination

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      3. I’ve been close several times only to get knocked right back on my ass… Now the trick is to stay in this state I am now. Whether or not I can or will is another story. I can say that I’ll fight like hell to keep the progress I’ve achieved though.
        Never ever give up!!

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  4. I love your conversation with depression. It really motivates me to look my own demons in the eye and shoot them right down.

    Thank you for the healthy reminders! Change is terrifying, but not so much when it’s changing for the better. We have the ability to make the change, but sometimes the fear often stemming from mental illness holds us back. The way I see it is that we start freaking out that change isn’t going to be for the better, it’ll be for the worse, and we’re not going to make it. Your post is very useful in tacking this issue- it comes down to believing that we can change, little-by little if need be, and prove our demons wrong.


    1. Thanks for your encouraging words!

      You’re exactly correct. As anxiety sufferers we tend to be unable to stop ourselves from perceiving any given outcome from a situation, good or bad. Living in and enjoying the moment is not something that comes naturally to most of us.

      I’m glad that my post resonated with you so much, and I’m glad you understand that you can defeat your own demons, one step at a time 🙂


  5. What a fantastic reminder! I do little things everyday that fight my depression. These things include, eating healthy, going for walks to clear my head, waking up early and checking things off of a to do list, and surround myself with loving people. I believe that there isn’t going to be one major cure for depression and mental illness. It’s the little things that are done everyday to prove your depression wrong.


  6. You’re right, change can be a terrifying thought, or you can befriend it, and put it in its place, as you have done; even learn from it and use it to your advantage. What a great post.Thanks.


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