Mental illness in the workplace: A discussion

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Should I tell them?

Don’t be ridiculous. 

They might be able to help?

It’s more likely that they will dismiss you from your post or at the very least, treat you differently because of your issues. You won’t ever get promoted. Nor will you ever be completely trusted again. You’ll be more of an outsider than you already are.

What about the laws protecting me? Or even the increased awareness of mental health issues in recent years?

Laws are one thing. People and their attitudes towards mental health are something else entirely. Don’t bother. Just keep your head down and hope for the best.

 Does any of this exchange sound familiar to you?  It does to me. This is a debate I have in my head every day. The more intense my anxiety the louder these voices seem to be. Do I inform my employers of my mental health issues and perhaps achieve some outcome that makes my life a bit easier? Or do I keep quiet, rather than take the  risk of being ostracised and possibly discriminated against?

With the stigma against mental illness apparently taking a downward turn in recent years, you would be forgiven for thinking that this wouldn’t be such a contentious issue. Yet according to a recent survey, 92% of Britons felt as though their job prospects would be hindered if they disclosed their mental health issues to their employers.

If we are winning the fight against the stigma against mental illness, then why is this percentage so high?

Perhaps it suggests that despite laws such as Equality Act of 2010 and the Disability Discrimination Act (DDA)  protecting the rights of people with mental health issues, we still have a way to go in winning over the hearts and minds of the general population. With this in mind, I believe that it is important to understand just to what extent mental illness is still a taboo subject in the workplace.

According to research conducted by Time to Change, ‘nearly one in five people have experienced adverse treatment when asking for support for mental health problems, including forced time off, breaches of confidentiality, removal of important work tasks and discriminatory behaviour towards the individual’. While thankfully this is not such an astronomically high figure, it’s significance lies in the fact that despite  supposedly living in a more enlightened age, there are still people out there in positions of authority that possess a warped attitude towards those who struggle with their mental health. Hardly a promising picture.

…yet look at it from their point of view…

However, this is far from meaning that every employer possesses beliefs that are draconian and backwards in nature .Indeed, you could argue that‘while it’s relatively straightforward for a manager to assist a visually impaired employee by providing a braille keyboard […]it’s harder to know exactly what someone with anxiety or depression might need in order to continue to fulfil their role’.  This is because mental health issues are, for the most part, invisible – you cannot show an employer the emotional distress you are in the same way you would show them a broken arm or leg.

Based on this example, it is certainly plausible that some cases of alleged discrimination are of an accidental nature, based on misunderstanding and a lack of communication rather than any premeditated attempt to discriminate against particular members of their respective organisation.

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Discussing issues such anxiety and depression is often a delicate subject matter for sufferers even on ‘good days’. It can difficult enough broaching the subject with those who know you well, never mind a work colleague who is little more than an acquaintance at best. There is also a fine line between attempting to coax someone into talking about depression and pushing them far enough that they may begin to feel (somewhat ironically) persecuted against.

Yet it is helpful to keep in mind that it is actually within employers best interests to keep their staff happy while at work. They do not have to be an aspiring philanthropist to want to look out for their staff’s welfare, seeing as mental health issues ‘cost employers in the UK £30 billion a year through lost production, recruitment and absence’. Furthermore, by keeping staff happy this is more likely to make a more motivated and thus, more productive workforce. In this light, ignoring or discriminating against those with mental health problems makes no sense from a business perspective.

Lets meet them in the middle

While it is easy to pin the blame on employers for not doing enough to protect their employees mental welfare in the workplace, I believe that responsibility of paving the path forward belongs to both parties, rather than just one or the other.

It is imperative that employers are given as much information as possible in regards to how they can help members of their staff who struggle with mental illness. In fact in some cases this is already happening. Workshops are being offered by several organisations specifically designed to raise awareness of mental health problems in the workplace. More importantly they highlight how employers can provide appropriate support to those significantly affected by their mental condition while at work

To sufferers like myself I say this; we need to be able to differentiate between discrimination and ignorance. Of course, discrimination against those with mental health issues sadly still goes on, yet I feel that the distinction between the two cannot be over emphasised. While it can be undoubtedly frustrating to come across people who lack understanding of mental health in this day and age, it is overall not a failure of the individual . It is an indictment of our society for its failure to highlight just how serious a problem mental illness is. Thus, it is only by reorganising people’s thinking around this subject that we can eliminate the stigma.

There is no denying that talking about mental illness is the most effective step we can take in our attempts to overcome the stigma. But it is not enough to confine these conversations behind closed doors. These conversations need to happen out in the open. Not to the extent where every detail of our pains and woes need to be poured out to people we know only as colleagues. Yet it should be perfectly acceptable for an employee to inform their manager that they suffer with a mental health problem without fear of being ostracised or of facing some thinly veiled form of reprisal. It is only then when this begins to happen that the workplace can truly be a harmonious  and productive place to be a part of.

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Have you experienced any form of discrimination at work yourself? Or perhaps your workplace has already taken steps to placate those who struggle with their mental health. Please feel free to share your own experiences in the comment section below.

 

 

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49 thoughts on “Mental illness in the workplace: A discussion

  1. If YOU were the employer… Imagine if you would hire someone to clean your bathroom. Your employee comes to your house and starts telling you about his mental illness in order to raise your awareness. You would probably say: “Can you clean my bathroom, yes or no? If you can, please do it. If you are too sick, then go home and rest and I’ll hire someone else. Don’t waste my time. Time is money.” The workplace is exactly that: a WORK place. It’s a cruel world. I know. 🙂

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    1. I understand the point you are making. If someone’s mental illness to the extent where they cannot carry out their job role to an acceptable standard, then of course the best thing would be for them to reconsider their position and get the necessary help they needed. Yet my focus was more on those people who are able to work despite their mental illness (as many do-myself included). They just might need a bit of support along the way. I believe that it’s a compromise that is, in most workplaces at least, achievable.

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  2. The problem is, the employer is usually not a person, but an organization or an institution that has no emotions. Your co-workers, on the other hand, would probably support you emotionally if they like you. But as a group, people don’t behave the same way as on an intimate level. So one has to be prudent about revealing personal information such as a mental illness.

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    1. You make a good point regarding how people behave differently as a group compared to how they might behave on an intimate level. Yet, I don’t think giving a very basic outline of your mental illness and how it impedes your ability to work to the best of your ability necessarily needs to be an intimate conversation. It need be no more intimate than disclosing how a physical disability might affect your ability to work.

      Overall it is highly dependent on your place of work . I am a teaching assistant, so I am fortunate enough to have received support from employer regarding my anxiety. I realise that others are not as fortunate. So people do need to assess whether by disclosing their mental illness they will benefit from it. It all comes down to someone’s individual circumstances at the end of the day. Especially so considering the highly subjective nature of mental illness itself.

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  3. I agree. Physical disabilities are visible; mental ones are not. I guess there are both advantages and disadvantages in revealing it. On one hand you might get support and on the other you might get just the opposite. So it balances out in the end. 🙂
    Would you reveal it during a job interview? LOL

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    1. Yeah there lies the heart of the problem. It’s because mental illness is invisible that there is so many problems surrounding the subject.

      Personally I wouldn’t no.I mean maybe others would disagree and prefer to get everything out in the open from the outset. I can understand that perspective of things.

      In my case I had no idea how my anxiety would affect my work. It’s only been in the last few months where I’ve realised that it was getting on top of me. Plus there’s the obvious risk of being discriminated against. You also don’t yet know your colleagues so it’s impossible to gauge whether they’d be accepting or not.

      In a perfect world mentioning it at the interview stage would be ideal , but as things currently stand, I personally wouldn’t take the risk if I felt it could be avoided 🙂

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    1. It’s hard to say to be honest. My anxiety tends to fluctuate a lot. I can go for months without an episode and then something can trigger it off. Usually it’s a combination of paranoia, apathy and a distinct feeling that I’m too different to everybody else.

      In some ways it’s like being a really bad actor. Everybody who is not depressed are really good at playing their roles. Pretending that everything is okay. Whereas I see the reality of it all. Every day just seems like one day closer to death.

      Apologies for the bleakness. I’m in one of those moods.
      How are things with you? If you don’t mind me asking of course 🙂

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  4. I can certainly relate to your feeling that every day just seems like one day closer to death. And everyone is acting as if all is ok and normal. I see the world as NOT ok and absolutely abnormal, so I feel completely alienated and it keeps building up, to the point where I have become convinced that I’m going through some kind of metamorphosis, thus the title of my blog. 🙂

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    1. I did wonder where your blog name came from. Now it makes a lot of sense. It’s a lot better mine!

      See I would like to go on pretending, but a lot of the time , no matter how happy I am, things always reach a point where that sense of happiness subsides and I see things as they really are (or seem to be at least). So it may be a fools errand, but I guess I have to try.

      At least this blog keeps me busy. It’s also nice to talk to people who actually experience something similar themselves. Do you find writing about your issues helps at all? 🙂

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  5. Writing is what keeps me from going over the edge completely. Although I think I went over already, but I keep writing anyway. So yeah, writing about my issues is essential to me. It doesn’t even have to be read by anyone, as long as I can put my thoughts into written form, I’m ok.
    Perceiving my depression as a metamorphosis is my way of coping with it. So depression is not something I fight with anymore. I welcome it, even though it hurts. I have no physical proof that an afterlife actually exists, but I choose to believe in it. It gives meaning to the whole experience and to my existence. Making it public is a kind of affirmation statement. It’s like creating my own reality, a fantastic one that has nothing to do with the physical reality I find myself trapped into at this moment. The suffering is sometimes unbearable. Do you find ways to escape?

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    1. See from a certain point of view I think that acknowledging that depression is a part of you is a healthy thing to do. It has such a huge impact on how you perceive the world that I would argue it’s actually unhealthy to reject it’s existence.

      I also understand why you choose to believe in an afterlife. Life itself is often so bleak that it’s nice to think that there is a better one awaiting us after death.

      Definitely. Escapism is very important to me. At university I escaped by drinking far too much. I believe that I sought oblivion or something like that. I regret all that now. Nowadays I mediate and generally try to remain as healthy as I can. Other than that I write as it makes me feel productive. I also find the natural world to be a great way to escape. It can be something as simple as looking up at the sky on a summers day. It’s often so tranquil that I can forget about depression. Even if only for a little while. Do you have other means of escape or is writing your only outlet?

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  6. I could add the ones you mentioned to my list: drinking and contemplating nature. Also video games. Funny you said: “I believe that I sought oblivion or something like that.” That’s the game I was playing yesterday (The Elder Scrolls IV: Oblivion). Do you play video games?

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    1. I do indeed. Mostly Star Wars battlefront on the Xbox One. It has it’s flaws but I stick with it because it was such an important thing for me growing up. I do need to diversify however. Is Oblivion worth a shot then?

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  7. My employer was great when I had a breakdown and was diagnosed with Bipolar. They gave me several chances to return to work, tried hard to accommodate my needs and held my job open for two years. When it became clear that I would be unable to return they retired me with my full, final salary pension.

    I did come across one manager who was unhelpful but she was new to the company and, I think, not familiar with ‘the way things are done here.’

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    1. That’s really great to hear. In an ideal world this would be commonplace. One day I hope!

      You must have been a really valuable member of staff for them to do that. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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  8. Really useful and important blog topic – I’ve been open and honest with my employers about my anxiety/panic, at the time the perfectionist in me told them ‘I don’t need any adjustments I can get through this and do the work’ and they continued to load more and more work on me! Hindsight tells me they should have listened to the fact I was having panic attacks daily and not listen to the perfectionist in me and make some small adjustments. This is something I am going to share with my employer as a tip going forward, as well as ensuring that I better listen to my body and make my own suggestions for adjustments to help me manage the role.

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    1. Thanks Natalie! By the sounds of it we’re in a similar situation. I recently told my employer about my problems with anxiety and while she was really supportive about it and offered to chat about reasonable adjustments that could be made to my work but I have yet to accept that offer. I don’t know if it’s down to some misplaced sense of pride or something, but I can’t help but feel like a burden to accept such an offer. I am hoping that I can build up the courage to ask for more help in the coming weeks. I hope that you’re able to do the same 🙂

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  9. Hi, it was really good to read this blog post and all of the comments. I couldn´t cope in a work place so now work from home and I also find that I prefer not to disclose my own mental health state to my gym for example. Like you say, a physical problem is usually treated without any stigma but mental health is another issue altogether.
    For my part writing saves me from it all. I also want to say how well written your post is. Yes you suffer depression but you are also so self-aware and articulate and you seem really holistic in your approach to dealing with it. It is good to know that others are like this as until I discovered wordpress I was the only person I knew who wrote so much about how things are for me.

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    1. It is a shame that we have to be so tactical about the context in which we choose to disclose an illness beyond our control. It’s completely wrong.

      I’m glad you realised that being in a workplace was not for you. I have a feeling some people don’t know when to stop. Putting work before your mental health is never a good idea! Writing is a very good outlet I find. I’m a terrible orator. I’m better with words. Being part of this community and being active as a reader ( as well as a writer) on wordpress has helped remind me that I’m not alone. Much like yourself.

      Thanks so much for your praise. It’s actually helped lift my mood after a somewhat stressful day at work. I’ve always tried to see things from other people’s perspectives, and I’m happy that this came across so clearly to you.

      Thanks a lot for your comment, and keep fighting your battles. I look forward to seeing what you write next 🙂

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      1. Writing is definitely what saves me from all my own demons. Reading other´s experiences helps me a lot. I just wish I had discovered blogging years ago. I am glad I helped lift your mood but that praise was well deserved. I also love seeing so much self-awareness being developed through writing and I see a lot in yours.
        A pity my psychologist doesn´t see the work issue like we do. She says I should go get a “proper” job!
        Thanks for your comments and for following my blog too. Hope you have a great day.

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  10. So wise! “While it is easy to pin the blame on employers for not doing enough to protect their employees mental welfare in the workplace, I believe that responsibility of paving the path forward belongs to both parties…”

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    1. Thanks for the praise ! To be honest this is quite a recent realisation of mine. With depression it’s so easy to believe that everybody is against you, whereas that’s not always the case in my experience 🙂

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  11. Hey Jacob,
    I think your post has elicited such significant response because of its tone. There is an openness untinged by anger or futile desperation. It is a post of seeking. I am a teacher, and several jobs ago I was an after school child care worker. My boss knew about my bipolar disorder, but it was never an issue because I believe she saw my commitment and compassion. Ever so rarely, I had to call in and take a “mental health” day and that was not held against me. Now, I don’t where a revealing would place me. I see no positive and many potential negatives for disclosing the condition. In regard to coping, I think thriving can occur through a physiological, psychological, and spiritual approach. Physiological- medication and exercise. Psychological- therapy and awareness of friends and family. Spiritual-prayer, church, Bible study, small groups, smaller groups and ultimately a realization of purpose, salvation and divine love. This combo has served me well throughout the seventeen years of bipolar travels.

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    1. Thank you so much for the compliment. I try to keep my writing as open as possible I guess. As easy as it is to get frustrated about issues such these, in a post trying to raise awareness of mental health in the workplace, I think it would be misplaced

      It’s also wonderful to hear that your then boss was so understanding. I am luckily in a similar situation myself. Mine recently said the reason she hired me as a teaching assistant was because I was very good with children and she saw my potential. That sense of validation went a long way to help in uplifting my mood!

      Indeed it is a sad reality that people feel so worried about disclosing their mental health conditions to their boss if they feel it impacts on their work. While there are many things we can outside the workplace to help manage our disorders, there is no question in my mind that more can and should be done to improve the workplace in this regard. It makes no sense otherwise.

      Also thank you for your response to my graduate depression entry. It would definitely be helpful to talk about this kind of stuff with. Also feel free to contact me and ask me any questions you wish 🙂

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  12. Luckily I work in a very trauma – informed workplace. Our job is to help children with their mental, behavioral, developmental, and overall health. Although I didn’t mention my depression explicitly, my employer is aware of the stresses and anxieties and vicarious trauma that can happen in each of our positions. We have all staff meetings where self-care is the topic along with other topics that we employees submit anonymously in a box. We also have a comment box where we put compliments and stress factors. My employer also encourages taking leave. While I haven’t explicitly talked to my supervisor about my depression, anxiety, and traumas that are holding me back, she knows that I and the rest our team have stuff going on. It’s part of what made the majority of us get into this field. I personally don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone but my therapist about my mental health and that is due to negative reactions I’ve gotten in the past.

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    1. It’s wonderful to hear that you work in such an understanding environment. I guess it is something that should go hand in hand considering the important work that you undoubtedly carry out.

      Also those self care meetings you mention are a great idea. Especially being able to be anonymous while explaining your mental health situation, which as you’ve highlighted is something that is important to you. While I don’t personally go shouting about my illness , I have recently made the decision to be more honest about my anxiety when it impacts upon my daily life. Since disclosing how I struggle with certain parts of my jobs due to my anxiety I have been genuinely surprised and humbled about how my employer is willing to support me.

      It’s just a shame that this clearly isn’t the case for a lot of people. I guess I am just very lucky in this regard. Either way, thanks so much for commenting. It’s interesting reading real people’s stories. Statistics are helpful of course, but reading comments like this one really push me to continue doing what I do.

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  13. I appreciate this post so much. I am right there with you. I am someone who can function in a workplace but it is SO hard day to day. I wake up every morning with a knot in my stomach and dread spending 9 hours at a workplace with lots of people and noise. I went to my previous employer about my issues. She tried to help but at the same time spilled the beans to the owners. I felt so unsafe after that, because the owner were despicable people. It’s a horrible situation to be in; hiding a part of yourself. I feel like a lie.

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    1. Thank you so much for commenting. Truth be told I am so happy that people are reading this and resonating with it – it just proves that the workplace needs to be high on the priority list when it comes to eliminating the stigma against mental illness.

      I am sorry that the situation you fond yourself in. I think you’ve just highlighted the biggest factor in deciding whether or not to tell your employer about your illness – it is dependant entirely on their personality etc. And even then you don’t know for sure if it will work out. I hope things are better for you now. If not, then try not to lose hope that there are understanding employers out there – it sounds like your previous employer had good intentions, but these were sabotaged when she failed to respect the private nature of the conversation you had with her.

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  14. ‘We need to be able to differentiate between discrimination and ignorance…’

    I think this is key with any kind of disability. It’s not just about visibility. It’s about, ‘I’ve never been there.’ For example, extensive guidelines have been produced concerning wheelchair access, but getting people to follow said guidelines is another matter entirely. Just last week I used the ‘accessible’ facilities in a motorway service station. Some bright spark had decided that the cubicle should include a baby-changing area as well. Fair enough. Except that another bright spark had come along and filled the area underneath the baby changing area with waste bins. Again, for the vast majority of users, including me, not a problem. But anyone needing to transfer from their wheelchair directly on to the toilet seat would not have been able to do so because of all the bins in the way. Ignorance. Pure and simple. People see all the extra space in the cubicle and assume it is ‘dead’ space that can be filled up with stuff. It isn’t. It needs to be kept clear so that folks can manoevre their wheelchairs. That’s why it was put there in the first place.

    Hopefully, that example will give you some insight into just how difficult these issues can be for both employers and fellow employees. With the best will in the world, most of them will not have read any such guidelines in detail. What they need is for the person with the disability to be open and honest about precisely what their needs are and the kinds of things that make life difficult for them. For example, Daemon’s employee cleaning the bathroom. Perhaps s/he is perfectly capable of cleaning the bathroom, as long as s/he doesn’t have to travel across town in the rush hour. Under those circumstances, a sensible conversation with the employer may be appropriate.

    I’m not currently employed. However, in the rest of life, I’ve found that the more straightforward I am about what helps me and what doesn’t, the more relaxed about my disability those around me become. Somehow, the degree to which I can let go of the fear, take charge and accept my disability makes a huge difference to the ability of those around me to do the same. I accept that this is likely to be difficult for those who suffer from anxiety and depression, but in as much as people can do it, I do think it helps.

    Of course, none of this is to say that stigma isn’t a thing. There are people out there who aren’t ever going to get it (unless, perhaps, it happens to them). But I can’t help feeling that if your boss is one of them, it’s either time to start grievance procedures or it’s time to start looking for another job. Some things just aren’t worth that level of pain.

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  15. Hi Ros. Firstly I apologise for the late response on what you’ve written here – life is a bit busy lately is all! Secondly you’re completely correct. The part of my article that you highlighted is indeed very relevant to those with visible as well as invisible disabilities. In fact I have sadly come across similar examples of ignorance to you – it is irritating to say the least!

    I actually went forward and told my boss about my mental illness shortly after publishing this entry. She has been very helpful and accommodating.Reasonable adjustments have been made for me and I am grateful for them. It has been a big load off my chest! My co workers also seem to be more forgiving and less critical when I do slip up.

    So I can’t help but agree with you once more. None of us can say for definite that being honest about your condition at work will go in someone’s favour, but it is certainly possible!

    Thanks for your detailed message. It means a lot and I am always open to new ideas from other bloggers 🙂

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  16. Such a relevant blog post. For me, it’s been a struggle on the basis that I’m employed through a college agency. Last year I was teaching full time maths (stressful in itself) and eventually burnt out. Before that I’d approached my manager about how I’d been struggling, only to be told no support was available as I wasn’t “core” staff. This exasperated the issue for me and I felt left hanging in the wind. I ended up having time off that could easily been avoided if support had been put into place. Up until the point of burn out, I’d done a great job and had thriving students, however after needing and taking time off, I was not offered any further work, as a result I was unemployed over summer, and I’m only just getting back on my feet. Does any of that encourage me to discuss my mental health with employers in the future, I doubt it.

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    1. Thanks for your comment Carl! I’m sorry to hear about your bad experience, and honestly, I don’t blame you for feeling hesitant towards disclosing your mental health issues to a potential employer in the future.

      Ultimately I think I would have quit my job if I had not received a positive response from my employer. It’s good to hear you are getting back on your feet however. The fact that it is a risk in itself to talk about mental health in the workplace is depressing – yet it is one nonetheless.

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      1. Hi, yes I’m moving forward. I’m actually about to write a blog, I’m feeling compelled to write a letter to the college senior management detailing my experience. I feel the need to challenge the existing ethos and at least see if anything changes…

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  17. Indeed, the path to understanding should be paved by both. That means that both must care about paving it. Employers do not care about paving it.

    Even the act of showing normal expected emotion can be risky. I had an employer start to lay into me while I was dealing with the death of my grandfather. I had gotten the news that day, while at work. The boss wanted me in his office immediately.

    He asked what was going on, and I made the mistake of telling him that I had just gotten word that my grandfather died. His response was, “Well, I suggest you get over it.”

    The scariest part of this story is that the company was an employee benefits and human resources consulting firm. They WRITE THE POLICIES for other companies.

    I told a boss about my social anxiety about six months ago, and how there is no accounting for this disability, even though the company makes great concessions for others and their disabilities. He said, “Gotta suck it up.” I was let go less than six weeks later.

    Sadly, I think that humans who do not suffer invisible illnesses cannot relate, and it will be a long time before they can even begin to understand what is going on.

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  18. My co-workers and supervisor are aware of mental health issues in my family, but I’ve never revealed my own anxiety to any of them. I do have the same sense you express, that they would trust me less and treat me differently if they knew what was happening in my mind. Thank you for addressing this important issue. J.

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    1. Since being more open about my mental health issues to my colleagues I think it’s had a mainly positive effect. I mean sometimes I cannot help but feel like I’m just a burden to them, but overall they seem sympathetic and understanding about it all.

      Yet I am fortunate to work in an environment where empathy is (or should be) a requirement for being employed there. So it is not my place to say whether it would be worth it in your case. It’s a gamble. Perhaps write a list of pros and cons and go from there? That’s what I did anyway 🙂

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  19. My story is a long one, but what I can say, is that one time I was hospitalized, voluntarily. My mom and my oldest daughter, both called my employer to tell them I was in the hospital. That wasn’t good enough. One of my supervisor’s called the hospital and forced me to get on the phone and talk to him. Now, keep in mind, I’ve been hospitalized a million times for physical illnesses, and I was never treated this way. There were no questions, as long as someone let them know I was in the hospital, and especially my mother. It’s none of their business as to why I was in the hospital. So, I was really upset when I got on the phone with him, and I began to cry because he was trying to force me to tell him what was going on. That was no one’s business, but mine. So, we hang up. A week later or whenever it was that I was back to work, I was told by fellow employees that, that supervisor went into the office of one of the owner’s of the company and was telling them all about it and he was laughing, making fun of me, and mocking me. I was so pissed……so pissed……..some supervisor, huh???? Him not having the exact details didn’t stop him from talking about it around the office and actually have the balls to laugh and poke fun at me…………………very unprofessional. I didn’t want to lose my job, so I kept my mouth shut, but I never like that supervisor after he did that to me. Ya know, it’s that kind of shit that causes people with “mental” illness to commit suicide, or at least one of the reasons. I lost all respect for that guy and went to him for anything very seldom, and only if I had to.
    So, not really sure what advice I would recommend after what happened to me. I didn’t lose my job, it was just embarrassing to know the whole office knew where I was and in a place like that, it’s very obvious it’s a mental health issue. I hope whatever you decide to do, turns out to be the best thing and that you don’t later regret whatever choice you made. It’s a hard one. I understand why you’re struggling with what to do. I wish you the best. Take care. Peace out! 🙂

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    1. Hi tlohuis. Thanks a lot for sharing your story! I’m sorry that happened to you. That supervisor’s behaviour was not only unprofessional but completely despicable. It’s bad enough that he attempted to intrude into your private affairs, but to go around spreading gossip thereafter is a reflection on his ignorance and self centered attitude.

      I’m glad you stuck it out, even if you were treated badly. It must be tough trying to decide whether to stay or go in that situation. I know I reached that point (under different circumstances) last year with my job!

      Thank you for your advice also. As of now I feel mostly content at work, even if it can be exhausting at times! 🙂

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      1. The problem was, I loved my job. It was just him..that one person…..I’ll return soon. It’s saying this website isn’t secure. I’m just trying to catch up on my comments real quick. I look forward to chatting more when I return:)

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